An unplanned pregnancy can feel like a tidal wave, crashing over your life with a mix of shock, hope, and fear. Telling your partner might seem like the hardest step, especially if you’re worried about anger, rejection, or pressure to choose a path you’re not ready for. 

At the Acadiana Pregnancy Center & Clinic, we understand how heavy this moment is. We’re here to help you approach this conversation or find safer alternatives with courage so you can make choices that align with your heart.

Safety First

Abusive partners may use control or threats to sway your pregnancy decisions, which can escalate risks. Even if you’re not ready to leave, talking to a professional can help you assess your situation and make choices that safeguard you and your pregnancy, giving you peace of mind.

If you fear your partner might react violently or has a history of abuse, your safety is the priority—you’re under no obligation to share this news with them. Trust your instincts; if something feels off, protect yourself first. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for 24/7 support. 

If you’re in immediate danger, call 911 without hesitation—help is available to keep you secure.

Clarify Your Feelings

Before facing your partner, take time to understand your own emotions about this pregnancy. Are you leaning toward parenting, adoption, or abortion? Take time to untangle your thoughts and set clear intentions for the conversation. Maybe you want their support but not their final say. Knowing your stance, even if their reaction is unpredictable, keeps your focus on what matters to you.

This reflection isn’t about having all the answers but honoring your voice. Consider what you value most. If you’re feeling torn, that’s okay; it’s a sign to dig deeper. 

Pick a Calm Setting

The setting for this talk can shape how it unfolds, so choose wisely. Opt for a private, relaxed moment, like a quiet evening at home, when your partner isn’t stressed or distracted. Avoid public places or tense times, like after a tough workday, which can heighten emotions. 

Think about what makes you both comfortable. It could be a cozy living room, a favorite spot in your home, or even a quiet walk if that feels right. If you’re nervous, practice your opening line to feel steadier. A calm environment reduces the chance of a heated reaction and helps you both focus on the conversation, not external chaos, making it easier to share your news openly.

Build a Support Network

If telling your partner feels daunting, surround yourself with people who lift you up. A trusted friend or family member can offer perspective and encouragement before or after the talk. They don’t need to agree with your choices, just listen without judgment. 

You might also connect with others who’ve faced similar moments, like an online support group or at a place like the Acadiana Pregnancy Center & Clinic. These connections can provide practical advice or simply a shoulder to lean on. Building this circle now strengthens your resilience, helping you face the conversation.

Find Support With Us

An unplanned pregnancy can feel like you’re standing alone, but you’re not on this path by yourself. The Acadiana Pregnancy Center & Clinic offers compassionate, free pregnancy services to help you through this time with care. 

Our trained team provides pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, and options counseling on parenting, adoption, and abortion, tailored to your unique needs. You’ll find a confidential, welcoming space to process fears, ask questions, and plan your future. 

Contact us to book a free appointment today—we’re here to stand with you, no matter what.